Dunno for sure (IANAL!), but my guess is that this most recent change won't make much difference in your case, unless you do get the donor to sign the birth certificate (which you probably don't want).
It's probably well worth getting a written agreement with the donor. Obviously, it wouldn't be cast iron since family courts can disregard any agreement and make any order they consider to be in the interests of the child. But it'd be useful proof of the intentions of everybody involved at the start. The donor couldn't start saying that they wanted to be involved all along (which would help a case for PR) if they've signed an agreement saying they don't. Plus the donor might be happy to have a piece of paper saying you won't pursue them for maintenance.
If you like causing trouble/blazing a trail, it might be worth having the argument out with the courts to be given parental responsibility yourself. It'll almost certainly be hassle, but it certainly seems to me that having a second parent (who is very much invested in the child's welfare) recognised formally as such would be in the best interests of the child. If you get a sympathetic beak and the donor doesn't contest it you could have a chance.
But all this is just guesswork - you'll get a better answer from people with experience of this!
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Date: 2003-12-11 04:41 am (UTC)It's probably well worth getting a written agreement with the donor. Obviously, it wouldn't be cast iron since family courts can disregard any agreement and make any order they consider to be in the interests of the child. But it'd be useful proof of the intentions of everybody involved at the start. The donor couldn't start saying that they wanted to be involved all along (which would help a case for PR) if they've signed an agreement saying they don't. Plus the donor might be happy to have a piece of paper saying you won't pursue them for maintenance.
If you like causing trouble/blazing a trail, it might be worth having the argument out with the courts to be given parental responsibility yourself. It'll almost certainly be hassle, but it certainly seems to me that having a second parent (who is very much invested in the child's welfare) recognised formally as such would be in the best interests of the child. If you get a sympathetic beak and the donor doesn't contest it you could have a chance.
But all this is just guesswork - you'll get a better answer from people with experience of this!