An agency by any other name

[lovingboth]

I met an escort recently who was working for an agency that, in general, was treating her very well. What made us both laugh was its.. 'upfront' name.

It made me think:

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Comments

[uran.livejournal.com]

The kind of clientele that would be ringing Horny Bitches is not the kind of person I want in my house, thanks very much. I've been having dramas lately trying to find enough clients to live that don't just turn up to fuck the crap out of anything that breathes, who share their time rather than just taking mine off me like I'm a product and not a person.
Somehow, GFE got mixed up with sex machines. Starting to distrust men in general.

[conflux.livejournal.com]

Two of my female friends have also tried working in the sex industry. So many of the men who pay women for sex do seem to think that allows them to treat the women badly. You could say this is the product of a sexually repressed society but I think it is the product of them being nasty pieces of slime. This has caused both of my friends to have issues with men in general, because although all men may not be slime when they are the majority of the ones you meet it has an effect. They have both now quit and I really don't blame them. Personally after hearing their stories I'm beginning to think a large pit to dump these misogynistic men in is the best solution. I'm normally a lot more easy going.

All of my male friends make a point of treating people ethically but then they are mostly bi and/or poly. Sometimes I'm very glad I don't mix much with the average macho hetro man given what I've heard and seen.

[lovingboth]

In part, I think it depends on how much choice you think you have in doing the work. If you can say 'fuck off' to a client, including after they've paid, because they've done something objectionable (I go yay every time I hear about this - paying money doesn't excuse you being slime) then you're more likely to be happy about doing it. There are good clients as well as bad ones.

Some of the bi and/or poly men you know have treated others staggeringly badly too you know.

[uran.livejournal.com]

Or the inadequate men who feel bigger than they are and like to try to assert that. Losers, all losers.
'Would you ever date a client?'
Hell no, I date real people.

[pavlos.livejournal.com]

Well, I do buy sex on occasion, but I treat it more like "strictly-for-sex" dating than like a consumer service. In other words paying some money is a good way to meet a stranger who's in fact usually happy to have some form of sex, touch, smell, talk, exchange back rubs, etc. It's a way to give as well as receive affection, and so long as we manage to see each other as real people, I come away with a positive experience and at least it seems to me that nobody should feel used or inferior.

I find this more honest than feigning interest in drunken strangers in the pub for the sole reason of sleeping with them, which seems to be the social norm. Of course it helps that I'm a young and OK looking guy, and I have enough genuine intimate relationships with people. If I were old and lonely and thought that nobody would desire me in general, then I don't think I'd be so cool about buying sex, or that I'd do it.

The sort of approach to sex work that I object to is where the men treat it like a visit to the restaurant: An entirely passive affair where they do nothing and someone else has to make them horny, make them come, or whatever, while they guard their emotions or bond with each other against the women. It's even worse if each kind of sex act (rather than time) has a price. It seems pathetic and disrespectful. If I were a male sex worker and had to serve women customers who behaved like that I would feel both hostile and drained.

Unfortunately, this type of sex "product" seems to be getting more common. Form the words of older people (in a mediterranean culture) at least some men used to treat prostitutes as friendly strangers. Nowadays it's a case of "fuck the Russians", so much so that all Russian women immigrants are seen as a sort of non-human sexual product. Eeek!